I've been reading some twin mom blogs to try and help me through my day present and future....and I found this very relatable.
top ten twin parenting challenges that impact moms who are raising twins:
- Surviving an uncomfortable pregnancy filled with anxiety and fear times two. I was scared to death the WHOLE pregnancy. Thank God for prayers!
- Deciding if you can withstand the social challenge and pressure to breastfeed two babies. (OH YEA NOT A PROBLEM!) It's hard to do it publicly because I am so used to tandem feeding but we manage! It's been three months and I can proudly say that I have conquered breastfeeding!
- Feeling guilty and heartsick about not feeling bonded in an equal way with both babies. This is a DAILY struggle for me! You have to juggle your heart and love it feels like. At the end of the day I have to face it...that I love them both...equally or not.
- Harboring murderous feelings toward your partner who got you into this mess in the first place...especially since he has had NOTHING to do with his beautiful daughters. It's a blessing in disguise now that I realize.
- Secretly ruminating about how you can feel so upset and disappointed after you have spent thousands of dollars on infertility treatments...I conceived naturally so this doesn't apply to me!
- Silently envying how your friends who have just one baby can juggle their lives with such ease and meet a friend for lunch..oh the days that I would love to just be able to get out of this house and walk..but it's a real job to do so alone!
- Acknowledging that having preferences does not mean that you love one twin more than the other..this one is hard on the heart to acknowledge. I have my days...but all in all I don't prefer one over the other.
- Hating to ask others for help because you wish you could feel masterful and competent on your own..this is a HUGE struggle for me being the perfectionist that I am. I want to be able to do it all...all the time when truthfully I just can't.
- Wanting to kill the curious people who ask you the dumbest questions about twins...you seriously just have to laugh them off! Don't ever let a mother to twins tell you that it's just as easy as having one...it's totally not.
- Managing the constant comparison and labeling of your twins by well-intentioned friends and family who are not into “individuality”...luckily my friends and family have been great at individualizing the girls. It's me more than anyone that classifies them together ;)
